Sunday, July 15, 2012

Better wed than dead

Times runs an enormous feature by Jason DeParle on life in the universe in which marriage is the key variable ("Two Classes, Divided by 'I Do'") from which everything else follows; Ms. F and Ms. S, who work in the same day care center in Ann Arbor, Michigan, are practically the same person, but Ms. F is married and Ms. S is not, so naturally Ms. F finished college, became the boss, and has the time and money to give her children a spectacularly nurturing and yet stimulating environment to grow up in, while Ms. S dropped out, became the employee, and consigned her own kids to a life of sensory deprivation and food stamps.

In other words, it's a dispatch from Brooksland, where income inequality is caused by sluts who persist in giving it away for free, thus creating poverty in an otherwise pretty cushy little society. Hold out until you see that ring, girls! The poverty you don't create may be your own.

Girl, Appalachian house. From America Watch.
Or, as DeParle puts it,
scholars have said that changes in marriage patterns — as opposed to changes in individual earnings — may account for as much as 40 percent of the growth in certain measures of inequality. Long a nation of economic extremes, the United States is also becoming a society of family haves and family have-nots, with marriage and its rewards evermore [sic, but I think it should be "ever more"] confined to the fortunate classes.
 However, I don't think those scholars are necessarily counting all the variables.
Although she grew up in the 1990s, Ms. Schairer’s small-town childhood had a 1950s feel. Her father drove a beer truck, her mother served as church trustee and her grandparents lived next door. She knew no one rich, no one poor and no one raising children outside of marriage. “It was just the way it was,” she said.

William Penn University, eight hours away in Iowa, offered a taste of independence and a spot on the basketball team. Her first thought when she got pregnant was “My mother’s going to kill me.” Abortion crossed her mind, but her boyfriend, an African-American student from Arkansas, said they should start a family. They agreed that marriage should wait until they could afford a big reception and a long gown.
One big variable jumps out at me from that paragraph, and I'm not even talking about the boyfriend's race (Schairer herself, judging from the pictures and the fact that it's not mentioned anywhere in the article, is white): abortion. You can't say if she had had that abortion she would have finished college, broken up with the jerk sooner, qualified for a better job, had children eventually from a more secure position, and so forth, but all these things would have been much easier, obviously.


So can you argue that abortion protects women from poverty? According to the Hudson Valley Times Herald-Record, January 2009, Kiryas Joel, New York, has the highest poverty rate in the nation (68%), as well as the highest marriage rate (80% of women ages 15 to 30). No information is given about the abortion rate, but believe me, there is not much abortion in KJ. But the number of places where you can predict the abortion rate without doing any research is vanishingly small.



What you could probably argue is that early childbirth—let's say, when the woman is 21 or under—contributes to poverty, and that abortion, where available, would help counteract it. Given the decrease in available abortion over how many years it's been, maybe that would account for a reasonable amount of the poverty.


Still more effective than abortion, of course, would be normal reliable contraception methods, made universally available to young women, but there'd be all kinds of moral hazard in that, wouldn't there? I mean, compared to the quiet benevolence with which our elites cut back on their food stamps and after-school programs and write spiteful newspaper columns about them.
Pre-K teacher Chaim Schwarz of Kiryas Joel. New York Times.

6 comments:

  1. I didn't mind an article about how being a single parent makes life harder on a number of fronts (not exactly a hard thing to prove), but I resented that these two families had to be sacrificed on the alter of journalism to illustrate the author's point. I don't see why he chose these two, or what good can come from this article. Since it seems unlikely that Americans are going to all go to college and all get married for life any time soon, it would have been useful if he could have come up with a more nuanced analysis, including things like contraception and ways for communities to support families of all kinds.

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    1. Exactly--you have to ask what he wrote it for at all, unless it was just to reinforce the stereotype explanation, which is an excuse: inequality isn't our fault. And it's a huge story, thousands of words. Maybe we should think of it as entertainment, like a "reality" show. I was worried about their privacy too when I started reading, but eventually decided they didn't care themselves. Isn't that horrible?

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    2. I think you are right that it's a NYT version of reality TV. I guess that makes actual reality TV seem more honest. At least it is what it is.

      I'd love to know if the featured women do care. Are they happy with the article? Or do they feel duped?

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    3. The first thought I had about them was wow, they won't be able to be friends after this. And the poor one will have to leave her job after seeing her humiliating salary in the newspaper. And then that they shouldn't be friends anyway because she's so exploited.

      In that way it really is reality TV, in getting us so engaged in their lives that we want to start making decisions for them, and because the lives are so much more real to us than anything we could get from a table of statistics, you could think of the journalists and the women as collaborators performing a real service. If only he hadn't wrecked it by hanging the story on marriage, I mean.

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  2. Actually the NYTimes has a video of this story with the good married mom with white children and the bad single mother of bi-racial children explaining how their marital status affects their lives. The bad mom's children have temper tantrums while the good mom's children get to take swimming lessons.

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    1. Couldn't make myself watch. (Unhealthy curiosity about whether the bad mom was fatter than the good mom.)

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